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8 Ways to be UBER Charismatic

What did JFK, Marilyn Monroe and Hitler all have in common?

They were all renowned charismatics that lit up every room they entered.

You’ve most likely met one of these kinds before. The guy/girl at the party. They possess some strange quality that causes them to be liked by everyone and constantly at the center of attention. Their eyes and the way they carry themselves convey power and magnetism and you can’t quite figure out why.

Robert Greene studied these people and detailed the methods one can use to become a charismatic in his book “The Art of Seduction.” He outlines the 10 characteristics that make up ‘charisma’, effectively quantifying a talent you might think people are simply born with. Here are the 8 of them:

Purpose

Pick a cause, a goal, a vision and live it. People long to have a cause to rally around — something to believe in. You need to believe in it so strongly for that it animates your every gesture. Be self-assured in every scenario. Show that you don’t share the doubts the plague most people. Act as if you know where you are going, even if you aren’t 100% sure.

Mystery

Become mysterious (like Bruce Wayne) by being unpredictable. Don’t hesitate to act on emotional whims as you will only add to your unpredictability. Always leave something about yourself for people to guess at, never fully revealing your true intentions.

Saintliness

Think Gandhi. Live simply. Don’t be swayed by the ebb and flow of life. You are above being affected by the little challenges in life. Saints live their ideas without caring about the consequences.

Eloquence

Speak slowly and hypnotically, with random pauses if needed. Try to be the exact opposite of panicky. If someone calls your name, turn your head slowly. Slow everything down until your every action is riddled with poise.

Theatricality

Be larger than life. Act as if the world is your stage and all eyes are on you 24/7. Stay calm and collected while radiating self-assurance.

Danger/Spontaneity

Radiate dangerous, rebellious sexuality. Be spontaneous. Hold no agendas and be open to anything. Realize that death is inevitable and act as though you look forward to the experience. Be seen taking risks for the good of others. Be brazen in your actions (Lenin walked the streets after receiving death threats). If you show the slightest sign of cowardice or timidity, you’re done for.

Vulnerability

Have a soft side and love your followers. Don’t be too good for them. Enjoy being loved by them and love them back. Don’t seem manipulative or needy. Imagine the public as one person whom you want to seduce.

Magnetism

Develop a piercing gaze. Look in the mirror and play around with different looks until you find one that is powerful. Practice, practice, practice until the gaze is second-nature. When you meet people, look deep into their eyes while you shake their hand. Never look away first. Remember that your eyes can give you away more easily than anything else.

5 Secret Qualities of Happy People

If there’s one thing that we all seek it’s happiness. I’ve never met a person who has told me they didn’t want to be happy, have you? When I do individual therapy, I have the opportunity to sit down with people as they present their concerns to me – whatever they may be. They usually seek therapy because they’re experiencing some level of emotional distress and are fundamentally unhappy. I’ve noticed that a number of things come up over and over for people as reasons why this is so. There are certain things they either have – or don’t have – and with this information I’ve been able to come to an understanding of a question posed by many:

“What makes people happy?” “What do they have that others don’t? What’s their secret?”

The following are my 5 secret qualities of happy people, in no particular order:

1) Absence of Toxic Shame

In the book, Healing the Shame That Binds You, John Bradshaw describes the difference between healthy vs toxic shame in that, “healthy shame is an emotion which signals us about our limits…and keeps us grounded,” where “toxic shame is experienced as the all-pervasive sense that I am flawed and defective as a human being.” Truly happy people have a strong sense of themselves and their value; in other words, an absence of toxic shame. This usually comes from a nurturing, loving and supportive experience in their families of origin. There are many reasons why people struggle with toxic shame. I find it often lies at the core of some depression, anxiety and perfectionism.

2) Absence of Resentment

Really happy people seem to be more successful at forgiveness. In addition, they often haven’t personalized the experience to the degree that others do. When you are good at letting things go, you don’t drag the burden of resentment around with you. Those who hold onto anger or grudges towards others for long periods of time can experience internal emotional distress that leads to bitterness, frustration and often health problems. They can also struggle with depression and excessive anger.

3) Living Their Passion

People who are doing work that is satisfying to them, whether they simply enjoy showing up every day – or it is more rewarding on a deeper level – tend to be happier. The same applies to those who have found a hobby or cause that brings them joy, whether it’s associated with work or not. Those who dislike their jobs and truly hate getting up every day to go to work tend to have an underlying baseline of life dissatisfaction that can lead to unhappiness. This is particularly true if they’re not engaging in something outside of work that touches that energizing place inside of them – which could at least partially offset the impact of their unrewarding job.

4) Dreams for Future

Those who have hopes, plans and excitement for the future are typically happier. They believe they can carry out their dreams – and can actually visualize them coming true. People who struggle with imagining what their futures might hold often don’t really believe that good things could actually happen for them. It’s possible their past or present have been so dismal that they’re unable to project positive things for the future. This is a very common belief of those struggling with depression. They may believe, “I can’t,” or “I don’t deserve.”

5) Connections to People

Happy people usually are connected to other people by supportive and loving relationships, no matter whether a few or many. There could be an argument that there are exceptions to this, but by and large, people need other people. From the time we are born, we seek to form attachments to our primary caregivers. Depending on the quality of these attachments, we will usually seek to form friendships, and then intimate partnerships. I’ve found that many unhappy people feel disconnected in some way to others – which can be very painful. Sometimes they are afraid to connect and other times their behavior is disconnecting. Regardless, for those who believe they need other people – and feel alone – a deep sense of unhappiness is common.

Like I mentioned previously, no matter who or where we are in this world, one of the ties that binds us together is the desire for happiness. Many of us know someone who seems to be a truly happy person. There’s something almost magical about them, their level of serenity, joy and state of “knowing” that everything will work out. And if doesn’t, it will still eventually be okay. I imagine that this person likely has all of the 5 happiness qualities I mentioned above. There are so many things that influence our emotional and psychological development. I believe that barring environmental chaos (war, poverty, etc.), we all have the ability to be “happy.”

It can require a bit of work to tackle the things that might be blocking us from that very achievable goal – shame, resentment, lack of dreams, isolation and/or lack of a life passion. The great news is I’ve seen it done enough times in my work as a therapist to know – it’s absolutely possible.

About the Author

Lisa is a Marriage and Family Therapist and writer, with a private practice doing individual therapy and couples counseling in Marin County, California. She has authored Therapy-At-Home Workbooks™: Premarital Counseling Workbook for Couples, the first in a planned series of cost effective and easy-to-use therapy workbooks. For more information visit her website: www.LisaKiftTherapy.com

Happiness within

Have you ever thought what is happiness?

Some people always grumble, "We are not happy." But, do they really know what would make them happy?

Some people live their lives according to their own wishes, they might even go to the extent of hurting their loved ones, but even then they are not happy. Then why no live at least some part of your life according to your loved ones and at least make them happy. The mere success of life is achieved if, in the whole process, at least someone is happy.

I believe that you can never be happy if you can never be sad.

Does it sound paradoxical? Let me explain.

the person who has not experienced darkness does not know the importance of a ray of light. Likewise, a person who has experienced sadness really knows how to live life happily.

Some people have 'everything' but with their behavior, they lose that 'everything' , on the other hand, some people have 'something' but they know how to live happily with that 'something'.

So, just decide from today onwards, which category you want to belong.

All I wish to convey is whatever comes in your way just accept it, if not merely then at least with a smile.

To be the Best, You should know the Worst!